“The only person you should compare yourself to, is who you used to be in the past.” I recently read this on the Power of Positivity Instagram account and it resonated with me for a few reasons.
Comparing ourselves to others can demotivate us to continue on our own journey if the road appears to be uphill and long. Negative self talk can creep in and cause us to think, “I’ll never have that kind of career success or I’ll never have that much money. Therefore why bother trying?”
We’re all on our own individual journey on this earth and if comparing ourselves to others results in us feeling badly, which could sabotage our progress, than we should avoid it. Instead, try to focus on where you used to be and how much you have improved since then and what you still need to work on to achieve your goals.
For example, I used to be incredibly shy as a teenager. Now I am the person at the front of the room wearing the microphone! I have come a long way but I want to do even more so I need to tune into my success and feed off of it to find my motivation to work harder.
Positive things can come out of comparison. If you read my blog regularly, you know that I believe that working out alongside people your own age can help you to see yourself more clearly.
We are bombarded by advertising that shows us images of twenty somethings, with zero body fat, who are muscular and perfectly proportioned (whatever that means) and many of us end up feeling quite badly about ourselves because even if we are over fifty, we think we should look like that! If, on the other hand, we attend classes with students who are closer to our own age, we might be motivated to work harder at becoming our best selves, because we can see that strength, power and flexibility are possible in our demographic.
Fit friends of a similar age remind us that we could be living a healthier and happier life if we exercise properly, under the guidance of a certified professional. When we move our muscles and joints on a regular basis, with the intention of improving our fitness, we slow the aging process. We can regain the youthful bounce in our step and feel better about ourselves in mind and body.
Comparison is a huge part of my job. I compare the amazing physical stamina of my students who are in their mid-seventies, to those who are barely fifty years old and I use this information to get more people moving.
We all need a reference point but the key is to select one that motivates you to keep moving forward.
See you soon,