Most of us want results fast and occasionally I run into a client who wants to give up after only one workout or dance class.

I am always shocked when someone walks up to me and says, “should I just give up?” Knowing that my response could either make or break the fragile person standing in front of me is sobering and occassionally I pause to question whether the experience is causing them too much stress.

The bottom line is we all have to decide what is right for us and if you’re leaving every single class feeling deflated and miserable, maybe you need to find another type of exercise program that inspires and motivates you to be your best self. At the same time however, you have to give yourself permission to be imperfect and make mistakes.

You cannot expect to master a new skill after only one hour and if you find something that throws you off balance a bit, that just might be exactly what you need to grow. You showed up in fitness classes because your heart was telling you that you needed to make a change and you can’t succeed by running away from the challenge.

It is true that we are hardest on ourselves and perhaps some of us don’t like feeling lost or imperfect in front of other people. I guess it all depends on our long term goals. You have to put in the time and the work if you want to change your body composition and improve your dance skills. You will not necessarily get everything correct the first class or for the first few weeks but the reward comes when you stick it out and give yourself time to adapt and grow.

I used to tell my clients to attend at least three classes before giving up. Now I recommend giving it a month or two or the whole 12 week session before giving up. Think about how long it takes a child to learn how to walk. They fall constantly but we never say, “you should just give up!”

Give yourself a break and a hug! Wrap your arms around yourself and squeeze. Give yourself time to make positve changes in your life. You deserve it.

Have a great day and see you soon,

Beth